How To Overcome Fornication Or Adultery

 

HOW TO OVERCOME FORNICATION OR ADULTERY...

By Apostle Daniel Akpai.

In our present world the greatest weapon of Satan against destinies is sexual IMMORALITY. A lot of folks are entangled in it not because they love the act, many want to break out of this entanglement but don't know what to do. This morning I am writing to unveil the key secrets that can help you overcome sexual IMMORALITY.

Note: You must put to work the strategies am about sharing with you.

HOW DO I OVERCOME FORNICATION OR ADULTERY?

1. Decision: Every self deliverance begins from decision, like I always said "Decision is stronger than ADDICTION". The power to stop is activated when you personally decide to quit an act. 

2. Change your circle: It is difficult to break out of sexual IMMORALITY when you still keep friends that fornicate and commit adultery at will. Their influence over your life breaks the day you totally disconnect from them. Look for people who will spark the fire of God in you and totally disconnect from weak friends.

3. Go for the WORD (Bible). Become a study of the WORD (Bible) as the Lord DISCIPLES you Personally through the Bible. To me, I believe the more you study the Bible the more organised your life becomes because it will help pattern your life in accordance to God's will. You grow over your weakness via the WORD.

4. Avoid visiting opposite gender/sex alone. Many times we are over confident in ourselves believing that nothing will happen, beloved alot has happened in the name of self confidence. Don't trust yourself, your flesh might deceive you. Take note!

5. Avoid pornography or anything that might give you sexual feelings because your flesh responds to what it is been fed by the brain. You can use the WORD (BIBLE) to format the wrong pornographic information stored in your brain so as to walk in total deliverance.

6. Always think about the consequences of the act. 

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Hidden Truth About Marriage

 

HIDDEN TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE

By Apostle Daniel Akpai

And the truth is that there is no perfect marriage anywhere.

We both make mistakes.

We both offend each other

We both have misunderstanding

We both act foolish at times..

BUT THIS IS THE HEART OF THE MATTER..

We both work on ourselves

We both learn from corrections

We both forgive each other

We both have marriage goals

And God is helping us to keep to our marriage goals..

Today we are best of friends because we allow ourselves to be worked on..

Being stubborn, arrogant, disrespectful, unteachable, proud will make your marriage hell on Earth...

I therefore urge both husband and wife to work to make their marriage work..

You can't leave the load for your wife alone and the wife can't leave the load for the husband alone..

If you carry the load of making it work together then it becomes easy to have heaven on earth marriage..

Best wishes from the AKPAIS 

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Five Major Things You Must Do Before You Marry

 

FIVE (5) MAJOR THINGS YOU MUST DO BEFORE YOU MARRY.

By Apostle Daniel Akpai

Today we have many married people who are living in regrets, so many wish they could remind the hands of time to make some adjustments in their past but today this article will help you arrange your life if you're still single.

WHAT TO DO BEFORE YOU MARRY;

1. Discover your purpose. Why are you in this life? What are you here to do in this life? You must have an answer to that question before you marry because it is your purpose that will put food on your family's table, moreso your money is in your purpose.

2. Have something doing. No matter how small it may be you must have something doing to earn ends meet. Don't be  an "about to" brother or sister before you marry you must have something doing even as a lady. Do you know that ladies who have nothing to do are likely to suffer in marriage especially if they're dependent on the man to buy everything even their undies. Woman, start something to get your own. Woman who have are respected in their marriages than those who have not.

3. Set for yourself some marriage goals. Many people go into marriage without goals ironically the goals you set for yourself are the things that will be communicated to your future spouse which you will work with to ensure a blissful home.

4. Get yourself a vision. Many get into marriage without having visions for themselves. Imagine  walking without sight.. Do all you can to set some vision for your career, purpose, business or ministry. What you want to achieve in future and the strategies in achieving them. Very important!

5. Pray ahead. Like I always said, marriage is luck some have bad luck while some have good luck. The only thing that can help you is praying ahead to get to meet the right person who will not frustrate your life in marriage. We have so many good people in bad marriages today.. prayer is very important!

Finally, if you're in Abuja do all you can to join us this Sunday for a life transforming Service.

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3 Litmus Tests To Pass If You're Ready For Dating

One question prevalent among youths is often when and what time is right for dating?

So much uncertainty shrouds the question of what time is right to date!

Many have held on to the belief that age is largely a determining factor in deciding if one is ready for dating.

It would interest you to know that dating is not tied to age. 

Yes!

Although age is actually a determining factor but when you read through these three (3) litmus tests if you're ready to date you would see how irrelevant age can be in determining if you're ready for dating.

Litmus Test #1 – Marriage Readiness

The first litmus test to pass if you're ready to date is to be ready for marriage.

Dating is a system which involves a form of romantic courtship typically between two individuals to determine the suitability of a member of the opposite sex for MARRIAGE.

Hope you see my emphasis? 

The goal of dating is primarily to check if someone is suitable for you to get married to. Since dating is a system to check a person's suitability for marriage, why date when you're not ready to get married?

The world's definition of dating would not support this view but then we are not to be conformed to the system of the world.

To know if you're ready to date, you should pass the marriage readiness test.

Litmus Test #2 – Complete Control Over Your Emotions 

Whether you like it or not, the quest to satisfy our emotions drives us into things we are not ready for.

If you're unable to control the forces which influence your emotions then you're not ready to date.

If you can't decide by yourself the direction your emotions should tilt to then forget about dating just yet.

Not being able to control and govern your emotions would seriously affect your dating life.

A female friend of mine was telling me about how she wants to leave a relationship because the guy does not show any form of emotional control.

It can be bad and frustrating both for you and the person you're in a relationship with.

You're ready to date to the extent that you exhibit control and not just control, complete control over your emotions.

When you regard dating as a means of satisfying your emotions then you're not ready. Wait a little while.

Litmus Test #3 – Financial Independence

The final litmus test I would be sharing today is financial Independence.

Before you make a move to date be sure that you are independent financially. You must be buoyant enough to take good care of yourself and your partner.

This point is relative to guys but ladies are not left out. Be sure that you can afford to cater for your needs and the needs of your partner before you can claim to be ready to date.

Have a steady and a reliable income source. Be stable financially.

Let your income be such that it can help you foot your bills and foot the bills of your partner when the need arises.

Until you're financially independent don't bother venturing into dating it is a quest in futility.

Conclusively,

The points which are outlined must be followed sequentially.

The first test which must be passed is the marriage readiness test.

After the first test is passed, the second test which is complete control over your emotions must be passed before you proceed to the test on financial Independence.

No test must be missed. They must be followed accordingly.

From litmus test one (1) to three (3) all must be passed, none must be skipped.

Only then can you claim to be ready to date.

Combatting The Pressure Of Getting Married

The pressure of getting married which is mounted on singles who are ripe and ready for marriages can be alarmingly outrageous and ridiculous.

The society mounts pressure. Parents mounts pressure on their children who they deem have exceeded the waiting period.

Peers also mount pressure. When young singles sees all their friends getting married they begin to come under pressure to follow suit.

Age equally mounts pressure. A young nan or woman who is in his/her late 20's may start to come under unnecessary pressure of getting married if no serious relationship is feasible.

The pressure of getting married truly can be overwhelming. It constitutes a major cause of so many failed marriages.

Succumbing to the pressure of getting married leads to;

◼ An Unhappy Married Life.

 Nothing can be as disastrous as having to stay married without being happy.

Having an unhappy married life is the last thing anyone would wish in life.

◼ Desiring The "Good" Single Days 

 One of the dangers of succumbing to the pressure of getting married is that you may you end up with the wrong partner and since marriage is forever you are only permitted to endure thus forcing you to begin to desire the days when you were not married.

◼ Regrets

 Making wrong choices in marriage would definitely lead to regrets.

You surely would regret your wrong choice and your children would follow suit because wrong marriage choices adversely affect children more than anyone else.

The need to effectively combat and stand against the overwhelming pressure of getting married is quintessential in the face of the dangers which arise from succumbing to this pressure.

To combat the pressure of getting married, here are a few points which I believe would help you to a great extent.

1. Absolute Trust In God

"Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy path" – Proverbs 3:5-6

To effectively combat the pressure of getting married from whatever source you should maintain an absolute trust and confidence in God.

Trust God in all your ways. Trust that He is aware of your predicament and trust Him to be able enough to bring the right partner.

Acknowledge God as LORD in all you do and He would make all things work out in your favour just in time.

2. Constantly Remind Yourself of God's To You.

"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end." – Jeremiah 29:11

God through His word has made promises to you to the end that He would bring you to a desirable end.

Even through His servants He has told you of the wonderful things He is set to do in your life.

Never doubt these promises. God is not a man that He should lie. Has He said a thing and won't bring it to pass? No!

Keep your mind renewed by constantly reminding yourself of the promises which God has made you-ward.

3. Preoccupy Yourself With The Things Of God.

"Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth." – Colossians 3:2

You can withstand every and any pressure of life if you keep your mind set on the things of God, marriage pressure no exception.

Jesus said;

"Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?

(For after all these things do the Gentiles seek: ) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." – Matthew 6:31-33

When your focus is on seeking God's kingdom every other thing would definitely fall into place by themselves.

God is not unjust. You can never be interested in His interests and He won't be interested in yours – impossible!

Seeking God's kingdom devotedly and wholeheartedly would bring every other necessity of your life your way including your marriage partner.

Apostle Arome Osayi said he never prayed for a life partner. He just kept on seeking God and His kingdom then one day God spoke to him.

God told him that "I have prepared your wife and with the way you are going you won't miss her".

There is certainly no way you will preoccupy your mind with the things of God, seeking it diligently and devotedly that God would keep your basic necessities from you.

If you set your mind on spiritual things, God's interests, God is under oath to bring every other thing your way. He said so in Matthew 6:33.

In Conclusion,

Making the wrong choice in marriage can be very disastrous and succumbing to the pressure of getting married leads to making wrong marriage choices.

Never be in a hurry to get married despite the pressure being mounted on you.

Trust God, remind yourself of His wonderful promises to you via His words and His servants, and seek His kingdom and interest and you would be able to combat the pressure of getting married.

Why You Are Desperate About Dating

Dating has become one of the most discussed realities among youths and adolescents. From teens at the tender ages of twelve (12) and thirteen (13) to young adults ready and ripe for marriage, dating is the most trendy topic.

I shared some findings on a research I personally undertook in my recent article on dating where I asserted that;

70% of youths and adolescents are either dating or have dated before.

25% are seriously considering dating and are held back by a lack of opportunity and for fear of the unknown.

And the remaining 5% are either not interested or simply less concerned about dating.

Now here comes the big question. Why the fuss about dating?

Why does it seem like your life is totally dependent on dating?

Why are you seriously considering dating? Why are you desperate about going into a relationship?

I have got a bunch of reasons why I think you feel dating is a must for you. Mind you, none of these reasons are reasons enough for you to date.

Yes! You heard me and I would write it again.

None of the reasons for your desperation to date are good enough for you to date.

No matter how good or healthy your reason may seem I put it to you that you are not ready to date except you have met the foremost prerequisite for dating.

If you do not know or have not met this prerequisite for dating then you are not ready for dating. Even though you have met the prerequisite for dating, I bet that when you look at the reasons why you are desperate about dating you would have a rethink!

So what are the reasons for your dating desperation and why do I claim they are not reasons enough.

#1. You Feel Incomplete Without a Date 

You are so desperate about dating and going into a relationship because you believe that being single makes you incomplete.

You have filled your mind with the belief that you need that boy or girl to feel whole. This is one of the greatest deceit of all-time.

The feeling of incompleteness without a date is the number one reason why you and many other youths want to date.

Here is why I feel this is not reason enough for you to enter into a relationship.

You do not need any man, woman, boy or girl to be complete. God has made you complete; spirit, soul and body. Therefore every other thing you can think of is a mere addition including a life partner.

If you want to date so that you will feel complete then you are not ready to date. You do not need that boy or girl to feel complete. You have being made complete by God already.

#2. You Need Someone Special to Love and Treat You Specially 

I had a discussion with a lady and we began to talk about relationships. Then she told me of her intentions to go into a relationship and I asked why?

Her answer is point number 2. She wants someone special to treat her specially. She wants someone who would love her specially and treat her as a special person.

As lovely as this reason may seem, this lady in question does not have a picture of who her dream man should be.

I asked her about the qualities she wants her dream man should possess and she was confuse and mute, unable to answer. Why?

She has clouded every bit of foresight she has with the thoughts of going into a relationship because she wants special treatment from a special someone.

For this lady friend of mine, just any guy would go. Regardless of his spiritual conviction, his intellectual and moral base. As long as the guy can make her feel special.

If this is your reason then like I told her I am also telling you that you are not ready to date.

Why do I think so?

You may end up with this person who makes you feel special but then a time comes when you no longer maintain your special status to this person and then what follows is a break-up.

A good percentage of break-ups recorded comes from this very fact. You may feel special to the person when you both meet for the first time, you start dating and then after three (3) months you are no more special to him/her, next you break up.

For someone like me who takes everyone I meet as being very special, if this is your criterion for wanting to date as a lady then you would think I want to date you meanwhile I am only being me.

You do not need anyone to make you feel special. An elder I know usually say "you are a special specie". You have being made special and no one is given the ability to make you feel special.

#3. You Have Little or No Control Over Your Heart and Emotions 

This is the root cause of your desperation. You desperately want to date because you have not gained control over you heart and your emotions.

This point is very peculiar to me. I looked back at the years when I seriously wanted to date and now that I am least concerned about dating and I discovered I had gain a great deal of control over my heart and emotions.

This point is also associated to why people cheat. When one enters into a relationship because of his/her desperation, the supposed "love" gradually begins to fade away when he/she sees a better partner. 

Your heart would always make you believe you are in love meanwhile you're simply lusting. 

Funny enough, your heart will never be satisfied. It will continue to "lust" after more people and make you want to date them. You may get the person you want to date and before long you are considering another.

#4. You are Living Without an Understanding of Your Purpose.

Yes! You desperately want to date because you do not know that God has placed you on this earth for a purpose.

You have neither realised this nor have begun working towards its actualization.

Everyone on earth was born with a purpose. God was intentional about creating you. He created you to solve a problem and fill up a vacuum on the earth.

If you have discovered your purpose and have begun to work towards the fulfilment of your purpose you won't be desperate about going into a relationship.

Idleness is an igniting factor for dating desperation and a lack of understanding of God-ordained purpose sponsors idleness.

When you're working consciously towards the fulfilment of your purpose on earth you would have no time to be desperate about dating.

For instance, I have got a very busy schedule which encompasses domestic work for my parents, administrative work for the adolescents in my local church, Bible study coordination for my Campus Fellowship, writing for Gospelcaster, Inc and so on.

I barely have time for play, television and even sleep sometimes, where would I get the time to seek a girlfriend, talk more of keeping one.

My writing schedule alone for Gospelcaster, Inc is enough to keep my mind from wandering away to thoughts of having a girlfriend.

You can't be diligently walking towards the actualization of your purpose in life and be thinking of dating.

Ultimately, if you know what the foremost prerequisite for dating is you would know if you can go ahead with your dating plans but I caution you if any of the following reasons happen to ignite desperation to date then you are not ready.

The Foremost Prerequisite For Dating

Dating is one of the most trendy topics amongst youths and adolescents of the 21st century. I did a mini-survey using my friends both those whom I interact with physically and those whom our interaction is on social media and I came up with the following conclusions;

About 70% of youths and adolescents are either dating or have dated before.

25% are seriously considering dating and are just held back by a lack of opportunity and fear.

The remaining 5% are either not interested or are less concerned about dating.

Mind you, these statistics are exclusive to me, myself and I. I just ran a random research which proved to me that the topic dating is a trending one amongst youths today.

Well, like every other issue of life, without a proper, good and concise knowledge of what dating should be about, we would be dating wrongly and amiss leading to serious pains and regrets.

Many youths dabble into dating because they feel a need to do so others date because everyone seems to be dating some still date because they want to have "fun". All of these are wrong motivations for dating.

Whether you are already dating, about to or not interested in it yet, you must understand that there is an important prerequisite for dating which must be met before dating can be done appropriately.

If this prerequisite is not met and established then there's no point dating because it would just be a waste of time.

We have made so much fuss about dating but I bet that a minute number of youths can accurately define what dating is.

So, what really is dating?

Dating is a form of romantic courtship typically between two individuals with the aim of assessing the other's suitability as a partner.

It is a system used to determine how suitable a member of the opposite sex is for marriage.

The word "courtship" which is used in my first definition is the art of soliciting or begging for a woman's hand in marriage.

And this leads us to what the foremost prerequisite for dating is.

Marriage-Readiness.

The first phenomenon which must be in place before you begin to date is marriage readiness.

If you are not ready for marriage then you are not ready for dating. Dating is not just a romantic affair as many youths see it but a romantic courtship. Courtship implying that marriage should be the intention for dating.

Dating is not for frolicking but the first step in the process of getting married. It is a system for getting to know your partner before you both tie the knots. The intention of dating is not for funfare but marraigefare.

As against the believed concept of dating which sees dating as a platform for just hanging out and having fun with a member of the opposite sex, dating is actually the first step to getting married. It iniates the marriage process.

If dating initiates marriage processes why date when you are not planning on getting married? If dating is a form of romantic courtship to test the suitability of a partner of what use is it when you are not ready for marriage?

The world system would encourage dating at whatever stage and age but as believers we must not be conformed to the system of dating which the world advocates. We are not of this world therefore we must not be ruled and governed by the system the world advocates.

There's no point dating if you are not ready for marriage. The first phenomenon you must establish correctly before you begin dating is "how ready are you for marriage?".

Ask yourself the following questions;

• Are you ready for marriage?

• Can you get married to the person you want to date?

• Will you get married to the person you are dating, should in case you are already dating?

• Can you spend the rest of your life with the person you want to date?

• Do you see an enviable future with the person you want to date?

• Will you be willing to let go of your will and desires for the happiness and joy of the person you want to date?

Until you are able to sincerely answer the above questions positively then I advise that you delay your entry into dating.

Dating is useless unless you are marriage-ready!!

Do not venture into something you would live on to regret. Be ready for marriage before you think about dating.