The pressure of getting married which is mounted on singles who are ripe and ready for marriages can be alarmingly outrageous and ridiculous.
The society mounts pressure. Parents mounts pressure on their children who they deem have exceeded the waiting period.
Peers also mount pressure. When young singles sees all their friends getting married they begin to come under pressure to follow suit.
Age equally mounts pressure. A young nan or woman who is in his/her late 20's may start to come under unnecessary pressure of getting married if no serious relationship is feasible.
The pressure of getting married truly can be overwhelming. It constitutes a major cause of so many failed marriages.
Succumbing to the pressure of getting married leads to;
◼ An Unhappy Married Life.
Nothing can be as disastrous as having to stay married without being happy.
Having an unhappy married life is the last thing anyone would wish in life.
◼ Desiring The "Good" Single Days
One of the dangers of succumbing to the pressure of getting married is that you may you end up with the wrong partner and since marriage is forever you are only permitted to endure thus forcing you to begin to desire the days when you were not married.
◼ Regrets
Making wrong choices in marriage would definitely lead to regrets.
You surely would regret your wrong choice and your children would follow suit because wrong marriage choices adversely affect children more than anyone else.
The need to effectively combat and stand against the overwhelming pressure of getting married is quintessential in the face of the dangers which arise from succumbing to this pressure.
To combat the pressure of getting married, here are a few points which I believe would help you to a great extent.
1. Absolute Trust In God
"Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy path" – Proverbs 3:5-6
To effectively combat the pressure of getting married from whatever source you should maintain an absolute trust and confidence in God.
Trust God in all your ways. Trust that He is aware of your predicament and trust Him to be able enough to bring the right partner.
Acknowledge God as LORD in all you do and He would make all things work out in your favour just in time.
2. Constantly Remind Yourself of God's To You.
"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end." – Jeremiah 29:11
God through His word has made promises to you to the end that He would bring you to a desirable end.
Even through His servants He has told you of the wonderful things He is set to do in your life.
Never doubt these promises. God is not a man that He should lie. Has He said a thing and won't bring it to pass? No!
Keep your mind renewed by constantly reminding yourself of the promises which God has made you-ward.
3. Preoccupy Yourself With The Things Of God.
"Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth." – Colossians 3:2
You can withstand every and any pressure of life if you keep your mind set on the things of God, marriage pressure no exception.
Jesus said;
"Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
(For after all these things do the Gentiles seek: ) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." – Matthew 6:31-33
When your focus is on seeking God's kingdom every other thing would definitely fall into place by themselves.
God is not unjust. You can never be interested in His interests and He won't be interested in yours – impossible!
Seeking God's kingdom devotedly and wholeheartedly would bring every other necessity of your life your way including your marriage partner.
Apostle Arome Osayi said he never prayed for a life partner. He just kept on seeking God and His kingdom then one day God spoke to him.
God told him that "I have prepared your wife and with the way you are going you won't miss her".
There is certainly no way you will preoccupy your mind with the things of God, seeking it diligently and devotedly that God would keep your basic necessities from you.
If you set your mind on spiritual things, God's interests, God is under oath to bring every other thing your way. He said so in Matthew 6:33.
In Conclusion,
Making the wrong choice in marriage can be very disastrous and succumbing to the pressure of getting married leads to making wrong marriage choices.
Never be in a hurry to get married despite the pressure being mounted on you.
Trust God, remind yourself of His wonderful promises to you via His words and His servants, and seek His kingdom and interest and you would be able to combat the pressure of getting married.
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